Hello dpens I hope you and yours are well.. I sometimes miss our correspondence..
dpen6
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As much as it is important to understand the nature of addiction it is morre important...IMO...in this case to undeerstand what the addiction as done to the innocents that have had nothing to do with the addiction. But suffer the results anyway.
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The use of drugs and the consequences of that use can hurt so many people.. and this man who is posting for the first time has a very very valid reason to be angry..
I posted my words in order that this man understands the why of it.. and does not sit in the anger..
I believe that knowledge is the way out of this..
Knowledge and acceptance and understanding..
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Addictions can cause irretrivable realtionship breakups that may never be fixed. The hurt is to deep, the collaratal damage to deadly.
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I hope this man does not think I have given him short shrift in my reply..
It is terrible what has happened to him.. beyond terrible..
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you may or may not be able to come to a place of understanding of how she put you in harms way but whatever the case the most important thing is that you are able to totaly gain a sense of yourself and be ableto move on in your life in spite of what was dealtto you as a yungster...hard is isn't.
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I personally believe that getting to a place of being strong in self is about understanding why things happen in our lives..
I could not forgive my parents for their acting out as I grew up until I understood that none of us are perfect..
That I am not perfect.. that I have done terrible things in my life.. things that have caused others pain..
When one does the fourth step in AA.. one learns how to forgive..
Page 66 .. The Big Book of AA.
We realized that the people who have wronged us were perhaps spiritually sick. Though we did not like their symptoms and the way they disturbed us, they, like ourselves, were sick too. We asked God to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. When a person offended we said to ourselves, “This is a sick man. How can I be helpful to him? God save me from being angry. Thy will be done.”
Resentments are what bog me down.. and take me to a place of either thought addiction or physical addictions.. letting go of those resentments is what I try and do every darn day now..
That above what I read in the BB.. is what helped me find that place where I could move on..
Jackie