[Celesyee]

DH and I are both Asian Americans, though not the same ethnicity. Initially we wanted to adopt only a full or part Asian child, but after a lot of deep thought we opened our preferences to any ethnicity knowing that we'd probably be matched with an AA or biracial child. When we told our parents about our updated adoptions plans his mother asked, "don't you want to adopt a half Chinese, half Filipino child?" As if we can just go the agency and make an order?

My dad asked, "so what, are you going to adopt just any kid?" My mom later told me that my dad preferred that we adopt an Asian child.

Now MIL absolutely loves Devin (and actually thinks he's her son...long story). My dad has even asked me several times about protecting Devin from stereotypes and racism. I also learned that the Chinese term for AA that we've used our entire life is actually a racial term. Apparently there is not a PC Chinese term for AA so now that's exactly what my dad uses...African American.