[kyle969]

Skipping the long story....

An ex moved out-of-town and avoided contact with anyone after a 4 month affair, over the years I realized that she was probably pregnant and didn't tell me (I was 16, she was 24). I looked her up a few years later and she didn't have any kids, she wouldn't have had an abortion because of her strict Catholic upbringing, so I am assuming she would have given the child to adoption. I contacted her recently and confronted her on it and she denied becoming pregnant, though I could tell she was lying.

I started a search anyway with what little information I had and actually got a match! I am waiting on the paternity test results but the girl I found looks exactly like the bmom and resembles me some. Additionally, details about the adoption match(it was closed) like physical description, medical history, circumstances, and the bMom's first name.

My question is, um, I'm not really sure what my question should be?
What rights does a bFather that wasn't informed of the birth have? Should I have any?
I didn't consent to the adoption, but then again I was a minor.
As far as what I am going to do I am leaving that completely up to the child (21 now). The biggest thing I guess is that I wanted to know she was ok, raised by a good family, and the birth records didn't say her bMom was raped or anything that would make her think I was a criminal or a dead beat.

emotionally kinda lost
Kyle