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I am an adoptee who was found by my bmoms brother (also the only other person to know about my existence in her family)over 2 years ago. J did not tell anyone about me, not a single soul. So when I questioned when she would tell her family she told me when she felt the time was right. Two years passed and she never did. My uncle got tired of waiting and finally spilled to his oldest sister about Js secret. When my aunt confronted J about her discovery J was understandably upset but also told my aunt that she probably never would have told anyone if my uncle had not said something. I am still a secret to Js dad and two other brothers. I am not sure if she will ever tell them.

And while I would be lieing if I said that I was not ecstatic about my aunt knowing, I also have learned so much here, from the birthmoms, about the emotions involved in a reunion and the wounds that are opened with contact. And even through I will never understand it (never having walked that mile in those shoes) I know that I must respect it.

I know that you feel so very torn, and I totally get that.
And it seems so unfair. And I have no pearls of wisdom to give you other than to say that there are other people here who understand.

Feel free to pm me anytime!