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My mother & I are still very close, but I suffer in silence & lie awake at night knowing that my sister is looking & I am right here. Should I go behind my mom's back & contact my sister? Should I just continue as I am? I have talked to my mom on several occasions since I have found my sister, but she holds strong to her feelings of no contact. Why did my mother put me in this situation. I guess she has no idea of who I am. I guess she thought I was more like her.
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I have a feeling your mom knows she needs to sort this but is having a very hard time.. there may be some secret that she does not want to come out and the secret is more important than her feelings and your feelings and the feelings of the daughter she relinquished..
Your mother did not put you in this position.. She is into something she does not know how to handle.. and just wants it to go away..
Its not going to happen.. and she needs to turn around and accept that this is not going to go away..
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I have so many fears about this like what if I do make contact with my sister & I'm not what she wants. Maybe she just wants to know my mother.
What if I do make contact & my mother never speaks to me again. I have small children & I would never want to jeopardize their relationship with her.
What if I wait & something happens where I will never know her?
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We were told that if we signed the papers and walked away all would be kept secret..
It’s a false concept.. it’s a pretend concept and does not work..
I say give her some time.. maybe give her a time limit as to when you are going to connect with your half sister.. or ask her why..
One on one.. why she does not want to meet up with her relinquished daughter..
If she was okay she would meet her and tell her her medical info and get on with her life..
That is not the case..
Jackie