[bromanchik]

I strongly suggest you get real options counseling. I think it is extremely important to the child that is placed for his mother and father to have explored parenting him/her. It is a hard decision, especially given your circumstances.

Remember, it is not selfish to want to parent your own child. Many children flourish growing up with single parents.

Are you already working with an agency? Please pm me. I have a lot information and resources on both parenting and open adoption.