[jalapeno]

Well, we actually had the opposite. We were foster parents then we adopted then had a bio son. But I have to say the wait for our first placement was so so so hard. It was 4 months of nothing, nothing, and more nothing. Then suddenly, something! And we had our first placement within two hours of "the call". I think it's just such a huge deal. I couldn't wait to meet our first child!!!! So I felt every second of the waiting. I don't know much about how birth moms pick adoptive families. But I do know about that wait. Hang in there. Your child is out there waiting too. Waiting to be born. Waiting to meet you. It'll happen!