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Originally Posted by lalgee
When someone says, "How many children do you have?" I can't just say - "Oh, I have 3 children - all boys. One is 4, one is 14, and I have a 24 year old that I put up for adoption when I was 14". Immediately, they would be horror stricken and not know what to do with what I have told them. There would probably be some weird awkward silence and then they would say "oh, OK, well, it's been great talking to you! BYE!" as they run top speed into the distance. Our eyes would never meet again going down the hallway and there would just be this weirdness between us from then on.
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Actually, I say that all the time. I say, "I have 3 children.. a 12 year old, a 15 year old and a 23 year old I placed in an open adoption." Sometimes I have to explain that I didn't adopt, I placed, but other than that I just slip it into the converstation. I have
never had anyone act horrified. Usually people are very kind. ometimes they don't know where to take the conversation, so it gets dropped, most often they want to know more and ask pretty sensitive questions.
I think I would find keeping him a secret would take a lot more energy than the energy it takes to talk about him. But I truly am one of those people who cannot be reserved about myself or my life.