Originally Posted By
Laura
Someone I heard about had this happen, gave birth (one baby) and kept it and loved it to pieces. It helped her deal with the unfortunate conception method because she felt that if that didn't happen she wouldn't have been blessed with the baby she adored.
Now, triplets add quite the twist. I'd think that going to counseling would be very helpful, maybe trying to find a support group. Giving the babies away won't erase the fact that the nonconsensual sex happened, worrying that they would be "a reminder", I'd wonder "what wouldn't be a reminder"?
The person in question is going to have to go through all the stages of dealing with the nonconsensual sex whether or not she raises the children. The question she'll have to ask herself is which can she add to dealing with that: raising three unplanned but beautiful children (they ARE biologically half hers and spiratually 100% hers), or dealing with the grief that birthmoms go through when they give their children up for adoption.
Best of luck to her.
Laura
laurae@qwest.net