[RavenSong]

Has anyone ever sat down with this woman and had a "heart-to-heart" talk with her about how her alcoholism is affecting her relationships with other people? She needs to take that first step, and start attending 12-step meetings, i.e., Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). It's hard work to achieve and maintain sobriety, but it is done each and every day in this country by countless numbers of former alcoholics and drug addicts who are now in recovery.

Going to meetings is only the first step. Once there, she should ask someone to be her sponsor, and then she should call that person every day...listen to what they say, and then do what her sponsor tells her to do. She should also attend a meeting every day for at least 90 days. As some of the "old-timers" in AA say, she needs to "take the cotton out of her ears, and put it in her mouth". In other words, shut up and listen. The "twelve steps" do really work miracles in people's lives.

I hope your son's birthmother soon becomes "sick and tired of being sick and tired". Her disease is hurting other people besides just herself. She should be made to face this fact, IMHO.