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I just don't call her by name
I don't know how, but I have managed to avoid this very subject for 4 years! Seriously! My b-mom signs all her emails and cards "I Love you, Mom" but I have always just started mine with "Hi" and ended with "love you". When I see her in person I do the same thing. I don't want to call her Mom because its a matter of loyalty to my a-mom... for me. Since my b-mom signs her name Mom I know she wants me to call her that.
The only time it gets tricky is when we are in person and I need to get her attention. I remember once when we took a trip to the mall. We had different errands so we agreed to meet up at a certain time. The time came and I saw her but she was walking the wrong way. I started to call out to her by using her first name but that felt weird so I stopped. Luckily I had one of my daughters with me and told her to yell "Grandma". I have no problem with my children calling her that. It is SUCH a weird hangup. I wonder if she realizes I have never actually addressed her.
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