[cnb1099]

I have been in reunion for almost 2 years now (wow that is scary...it has not felt like that long!) and I still call bmom by her first name. I send her mothers day cards and birthday cards that address her as mom or mother, but I am comfortable calling her J. She has not expressed any desire for me to call her mom and I am not sure I could ever call anyone other than my amom "mom".

I am still getting "comfortable" with J getting my kids (7 and 4) know who J is but they don't get that she is their grandmother. But when I talk to J or her family I call them her grandchildren. I was Js only child so a part of me feels bad that I cannot call her mom but I believe in my hear that J does not care what she is called as long as we grow and continue our relationship.