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Originally Posted by One_Happy_Momma
You know I was wondering the same thing the other night. Especially when I see that most of the communication is with the foster families of your adopted children. I wondered if the agencies or attorneys had any contact with the birthmothers to let them know how much their children are being loved and cared for, as I see so many of you do. The pride and love you have for your children shows through your posts.
Thank you for trying to reach out to these moms!
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Lupe, my agency said we should talk to our attorney in Guatemala about it. And he said we could give him a letter for her and he would keep it in case the birthmother came for it. We gave it to him, then later asked him about it - no response. He wrote us an e-mail months later asking us to send him some pictures. We did, and e-mailed him excitedly "Is this for her birthmother" Did she get the letter" Does she want more photos?" He never responded. I e-mailed him again about it a couple of months later about it - he never responded.
I mean, he's not a bad guy, but he's got no particular incentive to act as the middle man here, you know? We are not paying him any more. (Plus when we discussed this with him in Guatemala, I have to say me seemed pretty dumbstruck by the idea of open adoption. His attitude was, why would you want to keep in touch? You know she's probably just going to ask you for money. . .) Plus since adoptions in Guatemala are on hold, I think he moved his office and changed his contact info.
Bonnie, it's great that your agency promotes openess in international adoptions. I've really not seen that very much . . .