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I think many people start out in IA because they don't want the perceived "hassle" of an open adoption. I think more people choose IA for other reasons though. We chose IA because that's where we felt our children were and because we weren't comfortable with being chosen by a birthparent.
I would LOVE to have contact with my kids birthparents. Unfortunately I have one child that was abandoned in a field and another child who's birthmother lied about her name and address. We may be able to track down the second child's birthmother though and will try.
We changed agencies after our first adoption. One of the reasons we switched was our first agency's complete lack of respect for finding birth families. Not only did they discourage it but have been known to cut off contact (kick them off their email loop, not invite them to reunions etc) with families who attempted it.
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