Open adoptions are like snowflakes - no two are the same.
I was always for open adoption, and would do visits if they were feasible. Our son's bmom lives across the country, so we don't visit.
The hardest part for me has been watching S make bad choices again and again. I see what she is doing to her life, and to the life of the son she is parenting, and I just wish she would get help. I have given her resources, and she hasn't taken advantage of them. We helped her out with her rent one month, only to see her blow money on a new boyfriend. We have decided that we will no longer be helping her financially. We don't have that kind of money, and we don't want to be enablers.
Now, other than that, I'm very glad that we have a relationship with S. For her faults, she's also a very sweet person, who made a great choice for her son. We love her, and that's why it's so hard for us to see her in these situations.
Hope this helps!
