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rountine, routine, rountine....i cant tell how much that has helped. My childs bedtime routine takes about 45 min to an hour. but you know what.....no more tantrums before bedtime.
plus, we have a chart now, its real simple, we decided what were the biggest issues, for instance, getting cleaned up in the morning....and so on.....it was very concrete. When he did the clean up, he gets a star. we only reward the good behavior. every morning, we reflect on the day before (part of our morning routine) and then we talk about the stars he did receive and brush on quickly why he didnt get a star in that box. I find the positive for our child works better.
keep it real simple, and concrete. it seems to be working. also, rome wasnt built in a day, they will test, they will fight, but be consistant with everything, if you say "you wont get a star if you dont come with me and clean up on the count of three" you cant give the star if they come on 10.
for us, he just needs to feel safe and in order for him to feel that way, he needs to know that we are consistant....
im no professional, but this has worked with us...two steps forward, one step back..as long as were going in the write direction, we cant ask for anything more i guess....well, just maybe a deep breath now and then.
dadfor2
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