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OH, please! There are HUGE differences in how you parent an adopted child compared to a birth child, or a child adopted at birth.
Adopted children have a variety of significant issues ranging from difficulties to bond, hidden and/or visible learning disabilities, anxiety, depression, sensory issues, health issues, and on and on and on. They may be developmentally delayed, abused, or emotionally shut down.
Way too many AP's (including me, much to my eternal pain and regret) tried to parent the same way they'd parent a bio child. Unfortunately issues that aren't resolved early on come back later with a vengence.
Whenever I talk to PAP's, one of the first thing I tell them is to assume their child will be 'special needs'. Not all adopted kids are, but it's a whole lot safer to go into it with that in mind.
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