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Remember that abused kids are taught to keep everything secret, so often they don't disclose all the abuse to the social workers or counselors until they feel safe and that can be years later.
Also it's not just sexual abuse you have to worry about when adopting a troubled kid. My little RAd kid has no sexual abuse that we know about, but he does have a lot of anger. He has tried to take it out on his siblings and the cousins that live with us on occasion (though mostly he takes it out on me) Luckily for us the siblings are all older and the cousins though younger are bigger than he is. We are working through and now I can see someday adding a younger child. (don't tell dh, he thinks we are done) He is not healed and if we did add a younger child I would not leave him alone with that child for quite some time. I am not afraid of him sexually abusing his siblings but he might try to physically hurt them. He was always very secretive in his attempts to hurt them. He did steal from them and break thier stuff. There are more kinds of abuse than sexual.
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