I wondered what you meant by "If she was in control of the situation..." and now I understand.
After reading several stories from adoptees and the mother's who gave birth to them during WWII I can believe very much so that many agencies exploited them. The more I read of the history on these adoptions that took place, it only furthers my need to find the girl who gave birth to my mother. I'm now suspecting very highly that my mothers grandmother ( her real father's mother ) forced her real mother to hand her baby over. The nuns in the hospital probably didn't help either. Oh the pain her real mom must've felt, it's horrible! There's nothing like a mother's love. For all the mother's out there that are searching please know that your child holds a great piece of his or her heart for you. I prayed and prayed and prayed and we finally made contact with some of our cousins. They don't seem to know much ... one is hiding the truth from us which makes me furious! ... now we've just learned about a "foster girl" who was living with the grandmother in the late 30's. the girl was just a teenager and with my mom being born in 1946 would mean that if she were my mother's birth mother she would've been about 20 or so when she gave birth to her.
I read awful things about the place she was born in. How could some of these nuns that worked in St.Vincent's hospital for the unwed mother's take part in something so cruel.
Please take a look at my mothers myspace page, she has a beautiful slide slide show of all these family members on her "mystery father's" side of the family. Everyone is deceased now which is sad because now we know why her father (John Meyer) came for visits all the time, and spent time with her. He was in WWII and was in the merchant marines.
But thank you Jackie for taking the time to read my story and that I too wish I could tell her real mother this. It may sound strange but I feel like it is my heart that is breaking, as if I was the adoptee. Oh well... my search will continue.
MySpace.com - Pauline - 62 - Female - Saint Louis, Missouri - www.myspace.com/destiny_observer