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Old 04-05-2008, 06:33 PM
hkolln hkolln is offline
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Thank you everyone for your advice.

I'm so new to this and want to do whatever is best for our niece (soon to be daughter) whom we love very much.

After thinking it thru we both feel it would be best to start with phone calls for awhile (and those are going to be limited and completely monitored via speakerphone). If that goes well we can see about a visit later on but right now we feel is just not a good time. Our niece has adjusted very well with us and I'm not completely sure a visit won't set her back. Even her CASA worker suggested it's not a good time right now to do a visit...as she also felt it may be too soon from TPR. And we do not want to confuse her...I'm afraid she'll see Mom's out of prison and not understand why she is still living with us. She does understand Mom can't parent her and has made wrong choices. It's just so hard because she was removed from Mom's custody at 6 yrs old and she has a strong bond with her even though Mom couldn't protect her. We all know how kids love their parents unconditionally...I just want to protect her from any future hurt after all she's been thru.

Just wanted to say "thanks" to everyone
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Mom to 2 girls-age 9 and 14

1st MAPP class: 9/9/2006
MAPP class completed: 9/30/2006
Home study completed: 11/2006
Home study submitted for approval: 11/14/2006
Foster License approved! 11/22/2006
Flew to visit Niece for 3 wks 3/2007
Judge rules placement with us 5/2007

Leaving to bring Niece home 6/15/2007
Niece is offically part of our family 6/30/2007
TPR Bio Dad by default 8/9/2007
TPR Bio Mom voluntary surrender 8/9/2007
Adoption subsidy agreement approved and signed 05/2008

Adoption finalization date 7/18/2008! YEAH






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