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Hmm. Can you say to your mom (even if not quite true!) I'm glad it makes you happy to have found and begun a relationship with your daughter. Please allow me to process this at my own speed and in my own way.
I wonder... did you know you had a sibling? Sometimes the secret birthmoms keep can be very destructive, because it shakes the foundations of the raised child's relationship with mom. (If you didn't tell me about this, what else are you hiding.)
You have no previous relationship with this person, your mom carried the baby to term... that's a big difference! You may or may not feel a bond with this person. Creating relationships and building them definitely takes effort. That's true of all relationships but especially those with stranger/relatives.
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