[murdoc]

Of course this will lead to more abandonments. It is clear now that the US is trying to pressure VN into joining the Hague by bullying. You would think that the US would be wiser than that with a country they know so well. Have any of you ever tried to bully a Vietnamese adult???? Saving Face and politeness is paramount to them (trust me I know)... it seems like the US is westling with the wrong end of the bull.

In all this is just another hurdle for adoptive parents to 1. Scare them off , 2. create justifiable excuses to close the program when the new hurdle is refused by mothers 3. Use as an excuse to close all non-Hague adoptions.

If the US knew that they were close to using scare tactictics with VN, then they shouldn't allow families to file new dossiers.

I am not saying that corruption isn't in some VN adoptions, (corruption can be found everywere). I am not saying that it isn't good to do our best to protect children either.

What I am saying is that the US is going too far. Partner countries should all be teated equal. If a DNA test is needed in VN then the same should hold for China, Urkraine, Romania & every other country that allows adoption to US families)

But this isn't the case. the US uses different rules for different countries. Sure Guatamala and VN are the bad guys today (let's not forget the Cambodia affair)... Who will be next?

AND, when all our VN families are pushed out of VN due to closure then where will they go? Will we be leaving one bad country for another only to have the same thing happen agian?

I for one am very upset at the constant negitive changes in the procedures and news from Vietnam. Our Dossier is still with the IAD but I don't see our adoption being completed. No one will tell us to get our while our minds and hearts are intact and seek other solutions. We are just being told to wait and see. Soon most of us will be in the same boat, wondering what to do when our adoptions fall through. Some of us will move on to other international countries in hope for a better result, some of us will try domestic adoption, some of us will quit and some of us will hang on to VN in hopes of re-opening.

In exchange for our courage and patience the US gives us nothing in return. No promises or even good intentions. And because we are a minority, they can play with our lives, hopes and dreams as much as they like without worry.

The JCSIS has suggested that we write our political leaders... but what can they do really?

I'm sorry for the rant, but I am starting to feel a bit jerked around and treated like a child on the "need to know" basis. My agency tells me anything they can but there is so much they can't tell me and so much they don't know.

I guess I just needed to vent.. I'm sorry