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Kitty,
If being reunited with her daughter fullfills a need in your mom would you want that for her? Sounds like you really love your mom and want her to be happy. Maybe let her know that because maybe that is all she is asking right now. Of course you have these feelings of being displaced and betrayed and these feelings are legitimate. When she is a bit less obsessed she may take head of that especially if she sees that you have been supportive of her. It may just feel like you are being replaced right now because the reunion is still so new. When I was reunited with my child I was obsessed and neglected many things in my life. My kept child was my support and when we spent time together I made it all about him. He kept me grounded too. My children cannot replace each other. EVER! They are very different individuals and I appreciate both of them equally. I don't take the love from one and give it to the other. That being said, for a time, I was totally distracted by one of them.
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