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Hello -
My two youngest children are from Russia. Like you, the birthparents were rarely mentioned during our pre-adoption meetings. Our situations are different in one way though - my children were terribly abused, neglected and uncared for. There are many aparents that adopt from Russia that decide to search for the first parents and so many of them are happy they did. I am quite torn. I feel anger and resentment toward these people that hurt their own children, who have now become mine. I don't know everything about the situation in Guatemala, but I believe most placements are consentual from the mother - meaning they choose to give up their child at birth, correct? That would be something different in my opinion.
I do believe there are cultural differences for many countries. I think that agencies here are working mainly on your behalf and have little control over what is happening in your child's birth country. That probably leads to some apathy for folks that want "more"! That said, I think if you feel a pull in your heart to find your DD's first mother - do it! As long as you are prepared for either response and how you'll discuss it with your DD...I think it's great! Good luck!
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