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Old 04-03-2008, 12:33 AM
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Originally Posted by Dickons
The puritanical views that link premarital pregnancy with punishment (by God) that upset me. This is the mindset that created the perfect family image that was so prevalent in the closed adoption era of the 50's and 60's. Mothers without the sanctity of marriage were being "punished" by society (not God) for not following societies dictates of what a perfect family was.
Dickons, being a birthmom from the "closed era" of adoptions, I came face-to-face with society's condemnation of unwed motherhood. The punishment per se for having premarital sex wasn't the actual pregnancy or taking care of a baby. The punishment that society demanded of us back in those years was that we surrender our babies, so they could be raised in two-parent households. Some social workers were even bold enough to use words like "redemption" and "penance". It was a hard world to maneuver, especially if you were a teenage girl who found herself "in trouble".
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