04-02-2008, 07:15 PM
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Originally Posted by Mommy24
Not sure if the co-parenting comment was directed to me or another poster, but if it was to me I will explain why I brought it up.
First off, disclaimer....OA is NOT CO-Parenting.......But when I said :
"She is the birth parent, not the parent, this is not co-parenting but more about being available to her placed child, I don't think that means she has to have weekly or even monthly visits. She could still make phone calls, send letters and pictures, there is a way to make OA work even from a distance."
I meant that IF they were co-parenting (and they are not) then she would have the obligation to stay and help raise her child but since she chose an open adoption that means she should be available to her child but doesn't mean that she would have to stay within a few miles to have a successful OA and to be the birth mom she needs to be to her birth child.
Sorry if my post was misunderstood.
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My comment wasn't directed towards you  It was someone else... you were clear 
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