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I was a very angry teenager, but don't remember being angry at that age. But I'm reading "Adoption Healing" by Joe Soll and it says something that about that age, the child might be thinking about adoption logically for the first time, e.g. "if my biological mother loved me, she'd have kept me. There must be something wrong with me. I must be unlovable."
It says the child needs to be encouraged to express "her negative feelings about her lovability & feelings of rejection in order to help her understand that it is not her fault."
I don't know if this explains your child's anger but I guess its a possibility.
Have you read books on adoption like this "Adoption Healing" one or one that's called something like, "20 things adoptees wished their parents knew"? They're very good and might help you and your child when you talk about adoption.
Hope this helps.
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