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I don't think its right either way - period.
Although, I have made the decision to change the parameters of the open adoption I have with my daughter and her parents, due to boundary and safety issues.
It was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever had to make – but subjecting myself to the uncontrollable situation was, in my opinion, beyond the limitations that I need to subject myself and my family to.
I think there has to be reasonable lines in the sand – and if those lines are crossed, you should be able to make the best decision for you and your family (that goes for both sides).
Every time I hear about a first parent who closes an open adoption, I always wonder how much real research they did on OA or how much education was offered on OA by the placing agency.
OA is often presented as the ‘easier solution’ for most first parents – so when it’s unbelievably hard, they are often caught off guard. I am, by no means, making an excuse for anyone – simply say, that in many of these cases, they could be avoided with proper education and research.
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Brandy
Adopted Adult :: Mother :: First Mother :: Wife
I am not defined by a single solitary life event. My life is molded by a collection of events and experiences that have made me who I am today.
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