[Deana]

I was hoping for ideas on some of my foster daughters behaviors. First of all a cure for back talking like they are 15 would be wonderful!! LOL They are 3 and 5 and you would not believe the mouths on these two. They are very argumentative, very defiant. It is a fight with them all day long. They are smart kids and know what is expected of them they just choose to do whatever they want. They were in another foster home for 15 months previous to us getting them the beginning of February and I think they just ran wild. They spent most of their day at daycare and the foster parents did nothing with them. One of our struggles is hygiene, who potty trains a kid but doesn't teach them to use toilet paper?! Any behavior modification techniques I may not have thought of would be great!! They are also very aggressive with the other children in the home(hitting, kicking, jumping on them). When ever the 5 yr old gets redirected she says what ever she did was "on accident" You could be right there and see her hit someone and it would be "on accident" Also the 5 yr old is destructive and breaks things on purpose. They also have boundary issues, hugging everyone, invading their space, etc. I know this is just a jumble of thoughts but any ideas on any of their behaviors would be appreciated. Thanks