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Originally Posted by feelingreyt
I must agree though, that if the foster parents are wishing to adopt, that may be your nephews best option. They are the only parents he knows. However, if they don't wish to adopt, then I say go for it! He will be a true blessing, as I'm sure you already know!
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Thanks feelingreyt!
The only reason we are lookin ginto this is in case the judge terminates her rights and in case the foster parents don't want to adopt him. I wouldn't want to see him in the foster care system long term or maybe not being adopted out long term. I think he has been in the same home for 4 months. I have talked to several lawyers in both states and if her rights are terminated and if the foster family does not want to adopt him there is several options for adoption. They still have to include the father in all of this to and either include him in the process or terminate his rights as well.
xxsurroundedbyxy, I appreciate your advice I am just looking for answers to help us make this decision if the decision needs to be made I am a person that likes to know what is coming I don't like jumping without any notice. I have talked to the social worker and several lawyers and a adoption support group coordinator about the home study and the different options here. You are correct about my sister not having any say in the matter if her rights are terminated but the baby's dad will still have a say.
If the judge needs to know why I am just now stepping forward I plan on being honest with him (my sister didn't want me to know he was in foster care and thought she could get him back so she didn't share this info till about three months ago and once I knew I did not want to interfere since he was doing well in that home and we lived 8 hours away in a different state, but once I found out her rights were being taken I had an interest as I do not want to see him grow up in foster care) Then I plan on leaving it all in his, the judge's and God's will.
I have to say the whole reason I posted on this board is because at this point I am not sure this is "where this child needs to be," I am waiting on more answers, asking more questions, looking into every aspect of this whole situation to gain perspective and make informed decisions on all of this as we move along through this process with my sister.
Thanks again for your support, tips, advice and encouragement.