[michsm]

I know you probably wont like my answer but unfortunaely all you can say is "I don't know". I never knew how much I would grow to hate those words. They are the hardest words to say. I had one placement for 2yrs and I don't know became a ritual. DFCS told me it was all I could say. Some days you just have to sit and cry with them while giving the answer. It never gets easier and you can't change the answer until the judge gives the word.

As for his rejecting you I found that the closer they feel twords you (especially when they think of mom at that time) the more they will push away. I had one of my FD's talk to me about the guilt that she would feel when sharing a moment she felt she should be sharing with her mom.

There is a book called Maybe Days: A Book For Children In Foster Care by Jennifer Wilgocki and Marcia Kahn Wright

It may help you. I wish there was some way to magically end the I don't knows and Maybe answers. Good luck.