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longingtimewaiting
From a lurker....and one who has been in the same place as you are (keeping a secret from your home-grown children).
This is not only your CHILD you are waiting to meet. It's knowledge of their SISTER you are withholding.
Tell it longing. From expereience I know that young adults need some time to actually accept another sibling exists - the longer you leave it the harder it will be for you and the daughter you seek. For example - It's difficult for 20 yr olds to understand their birth-order has never been correct, and their parent was living a lie.
And....my found bson was extremely hurt that I hadn't shared his presense with my children (Male 31yo and 29yo female at the time of reunion). He had to contend with two siblings who were still reeling from finally being told there was a half-brother and coming to terms with what that meant for them and me. Things were very strained for 18 months at least.
I freely admit I was wrong not telling. At the time I thought it better to wait and see, but with hindsight, I was just protecting myself ....I'd held it secret for so long I didn't want to share what I thought was esentially my sin.
Ann
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Dont spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things only hoped for.
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