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1. I am considered to be a threat to the adoptive mother, because I might gain just a little bit of what I lost and she gained back during reunion.

2. I am considered a threat to the new wife of the first father, because I might gain just a little bit of what I lost back by reestablishing a telephone relationship with the father of my child during reunion.

3. I am now considered an evil abandoner, because I am now longer the impressionable young woman who was easily swayed into believing that adoption was the best option for my child because I was unwed.

4. I am considered unstable by the adoptive family because I experience grief over the loss of my child, even though society says that the loss of a child is the worst thing that a mother can go through.

5. I am considered to be needy and pushy, because I responded with eagerness and overwhelming happiness when I was found by my child after too many years of a closed adoption.

6. I am considered to be unable to love by the adoptive parents because I gave up my child as an unwed, impressionable and naive teenager. (I have been told that the adoptive parents will provide the love and I can provide the college education to my granddaughter).

7. I have no legal relationship to the child of my body while genetic strangers claim my child and grandchild as their own and don't want to share with me as I have shared with them.

8. I am not considered to be a grandmother to my own grandchild, because a legal document says I am no longer related to the child of my reunited child.

9. My child was extremely different in personality and intellect from the adoptive family and still struggles to fit in and conform to a family which does not mirror him in any way.

10. I lost my only child because I was unwed while the people who adopted him were on the verge of divorce (without my knowledge), and my child had a very unstable homelife as a result.