[BrandyHagz]

1. Criminal backgrounds/histories are ok, as long as you're not going thru an unplanned pregnancy (Only people who adopt can change)

2. A history of drunken driving/drinking and doing drugs is ok, as long as you're not going thru an unplanned pregnancy (Only people who adopt can change)

3. "We don't have a lot of money, but we have a lot of love and that's what a child needs!" is a perfectly acceptable statement if you're adopting - but if you're pregnant, you are constantly reminded how UNTRUE that statement is.

4. Mental illness is ok if you’re adopting, but if you’re experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, its just one of a long laundry list of reasons why you’re not fit to parent and should made this ‘selfless choice’.

5. Stereotypes that paint first parents as unstable, especially when used against/in relation me (and they are) and especially because I am NOT the unstable one in our ‘relationship’.

6. Statements that indicate that my daughter (who is living in a life of unspeakable poverty and neglect) is better off in her adopted home.

7. That birthmotherhood somehow freezes my intellect/age – that for many people, I will never be the mid-thirties highly educated professional woman – I will always be the ‘young girl who got in trouble’…even tho I was 22 when I gave birth.

8. The way my Dr. or more specifically the ART Dr. has made me feel about my fertility and reproduction because I’ve had ‘2 full term live births’ and clearly only raise one child.

9. Biased studies that are clearly biased by the parties conducting the study.

10. The biggest one I am fighting/dealing with right now is antique/archaic views/ideas about adoption – some people refuse to believe that adoption has changed since even the 80’s and are unwilling to adjust their thinking to fit that.

So that’s mine.

Oh, and stupid comments from stupid people…but hasn’t someone already said that?