|
I understand the history behind the term "birthmother" as well as "birthmother's day" and I appreciate the sincere efforts of those who have gone before me. That being said, however, I think it's time to evolve our consciousness again. When a group of people find a name for themselves that they feel empowers them, that's probably a good thing. When "society" begins to use that name, but attaches their own skewed definition to the name... well, then I think maybe it's time to use a new name.
I never heard of the term birthmother, or birthmother's day, until I came to these forums. I tried to use the term, and tried to appreciate the "special" day, but it just does not work for me. I was, am, and always will be, simply a mother. I happen to be a mother who did not raise one of her children. I see nothing to celebrate.
In order for me to participate in any kind of "birthmother's day" events, the events would have to focus on grief and loss, adoption reform, support for reunion, and would have to contain a public education element.
I would be insulted to receive a "birthmother" card. That's just me, though.
Peace,
Susan
|