[stevenstwin]

she put together a little package with a letter and some drawings, basically saying that she loves him and really misses her "brother". (this is the 9 year old, by the way -NOT the 15 year old ;-) I don't know if I should let her send it - for two reasons - I think he may just think I'm using her to try to guilt him into feeling bad over his recent choice to cut us off, and I'm afraid she may be very disappointed if she doesn't get a positive response. On the other hand, I think it also won't hurt him any to see that other people have feelings to, and his choices and actions affect them. What do you think?
ps - or, is this just evidence that I'm still stuck and need to get over it? Oh, the horrors, but that DID occur to me right after I hit post! (this all came up because three days ago we drove by him on the street, and as soon as he recognized the car he turned his head and pretended like he hadn't seen us. My DD was with me, of course, so that kind of triggered it).