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Here, you are actually not required to send anything to visits with the bios. That doesn't mean CW won't recommend it but it is your decision. Even hour long visits in my county, the bios are instructed to prepare and bring a snack or bring money for the vending machine. I am often tempted to send something with R in his backpack as they pick him up from school and he has back to back visits with mom and dad and is used to an after-school snack.....but I don't want to enable his parents. I feel they are given MORE and more help until they see nothing pertaining to their child as their responsibility.

I think it is the least they can do if they are so far along that they think they are ready for overnight visits.....especially bios like my currect FS's biomom who still receives a check on him even with him in state custody. Ridiculous. The state is paying twice for this child....but they say she needs to keep her bills paid and housing in place to be ready to take him back (if she begins anything on her caseplan...which she hasn't) and she depends on the check she gets for him as well as her own disability check to cover those expenses. I see their point but geez.

I would do as the others suggest and send an informative note telling diaper size, nipple preference and bottles, amount they typically drink and the schedule they are on. Don't expect your advice to be followed, don't expect the child to be bathed, and expect the child to come back completely off schedule.....then you won't be disappointed and may even be pleasantly surprised if they take any of your advice!!

Kim