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and hopefully I won't be attacked here, but I'm very very conflicted on the mother's day celebration. Ty's bmom refers to me as his Mom. Obvisouly I refer to myself as his mom, but can realize I'm not his "only" mom. At the same time, I want to scoop him up and curl him into me and say...mine. I know it's not right, and I have love and respect for the woman who made him, and blessed us with him. I know that on that day she will be thinking of him. At the same time, I would rather send her a card on his birthday. Does that make any sense? I don't know how to explain it, but for us, his birth and that DAY was the amazing thing she did for us that I want to recognize. I guess I DO want to be selfish and keep the traditional mothers day for me, even in our untraditional family. Sort like I want to enjoy that day, and not every year be "forced" to remind myself that yes, I didn't give birth to Ty.

I'm not making this sound very nice. Honestly I'm not the selfish nitwit I sound like! I think part of it might be emotional because this will be my 1st mothers day too, so it's so very special

For us the same goes for Father's day since Ty's bmom and bfather are together. Does anyone feel differently about fathers day than mother's day? Both Ty's paretns signed surrenders and made the court appearance.

Well that's my 2 cents from a clearly confused amom