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We had visits and lots of "talk time"
Additionally, her social worker interviewed her (and E's bio father) and gave us all the notes. I don't know how much better we could have known each other in the amount of time we had (4 months) but she still hid things from us that I have to deal with on a daily basis now.
We both thought we had found the perfect match but the problems she hid from me have made it necessary for us to set boundaries I did not want to have to set in our open adoption.
So I wish the process was a bit more honest or thorough or whatever....it would have helped me to manage my expectations.
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