[lucyjoy]

Children with Rad generally don't sleep in new places for a good deal of time. It's exhausting, so I suggest putting an alarm on her door so you know where she is at night. The alarm also helps the child to know that no one can sneak up on her and hurt her at night.

Don't put too many things in her room in the beginning. Many times they just destroy them, but also, I've found mine had trouble if there were too many things to take care of. They often saved weird things like bags of trash from the kitchen or old food boxes. Less in their room made it easier to check for such things to avoid bugs or mice invading your home.

Be sure the boundaries are clear and that ALL rule breaking is consequence with natural or logical consequences. Children with RAD need to test their parents to see if they mean what they say and are safe. If you let little things slide, they will need to do bigger things to test you.

Find things to do that encourage positive touch and eye contact. Hair brushing, singing silly songs, cooking together(especially with messy foods)

I also had to teach my children with RAD how to play with toys. Getting down on the floor and playing along is good for the child both in modeling play with others and in helping them connect with you.

Be sure to establish good communication with teachers. Triagulating between adults is something children with RAD do very effectively. They tell mom the teacher picks on them and the teacher that mom starves them-stuff like that. If there is good communication, mom or teacher can check out such stories stopping the child from using this tactic(which makes the child feel safer both places)

There is a lot to read. If I were looking for a place to start, I'd start with Greg Keck's Adopting the Hurt Child. It does a good job of explaining the motivation behind strange behaviors and what one might see.

Good luck!