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Originally Posted by paigeturner
There is a huge difference to feeling grief and loss to feeling remorse. I suffered my grief privately. I've held my pain privately. And I can guarantee you that if I'd had the option of an open adoption, his parents would have been the last people I would have shared my private grief with.
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Yes. A's Mom was at one point curious about why I expressed no feelings of loss to her at our first meeting. A lot of reasons. Because I'm "strong and independent" and I think that's a better way for her to see me. I don't think me appearing needy and in pain would really help to establish a relationship with her. Her job is to be my daughters Mother, not my mother.
On here I am more open about pain/grief (but even here I don't talk about it a great deal) but in my personal life I keep it very private.