[feelingreyt]

We are in a relative adoption. We have 2 bio children ages 7 and 3. We were placed with our ason when he was 5 days old, so my experience will be somewhat different. His first mom is a distant cousin to my husband. We, also, were not looking to adopt. We were asked by the immeditate family to take the youngest of 4 when their mom went to jail. We did not hesitate, we picked him up the next morning. By they way, we live in the same County.
After a few weeks his first mom asked us to adopt him. She had wanted to place him from the moment she found out she was pregnant, but just couldn't see letting someone she didn't know take him. To make a long story short, the adoption is Final!
Has there been more chaos caused by the first mom? YES! She is a drug addict who is in and out of jail. Is it worth it? You bet!
As a side note, we took care of my ason's biosister, 17 months old, for almost a month last month when her mom just couldn't handle her crying and honestly, just wanted to party. I would adopt her in if I could, but to be honest, the family wants to keep her and her 27 month old sister together, so they are now placed with a friend of the family. I can not handle 5 children with 4 of them being age 3 and under, I just can't! Their oldest sister who is 4 is with their grandmother, where she has been since birth.
All of that to say, if you can provide a loving secure home for your nephew, and if that is what is best for him, all the chaos from your sister will be worth it. Also, BOUNDARIES! Set rules that she must abide by. PERIOD. If she don't, then tell her contact is a no no until she learns to respect you and your rules.

Just curious.....has your nephew been in the same foster home for 9 months? Just wondering how attached he is to them and what their take is on all this. Are they wanting to adopt him, if possible?

Also, does he know you and your family? 2 yrs old is still a very young age. I would not let the fact that is not a newborn affect your decision.