Waytoointense
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Jackie...that's really interesting too...premature ego development and consciousness as a defense mechanism...doubtless the link between substance abuse and adoption arises from a subconscious desire to return to the stability of a former quiescence - LEAPING OUT OF TIME STRAIGHT BACK TO THE UNCONSCIOUSNESS OF THE WOMB!
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Ah.. Yes..
She has had two boyfriends that were adopted and both took or take a pass with getting stoned..
Take a pass.. and do not sort these emotions that force a person to turn around.. and feel.. left.. or abandoned..
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Is your daughter adopted, german, or the child of an alcoholic father?
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Child of an alcoholic father.. I am a birthmom and told her nothing till she was eleven or close to that age..
I am or was.. a codependent people pleaser.. and I married the one that was tossed out of bars.. drove while drunk.. made my life hard..
She (my daughter) used to have dreams that I left her.. or was leaving her.. this before she knew the truth.
After I told her she brought her friends home.. the ones that were adopted so they could talk to a birthmom..
I am the daughter of two heavy drinkers.. ones that drank themselves sober.. no problems till they drank beyond that..
German? No.. interesting question there..
My life is open.. I try and help now.. I have done twelve steps.. in a few programs.. Alanon being one of them.. and the twelfth step is what I do..
I worry about my daughter.. heck I worry about my son.. She is over thirty as well as the son..
I gave my bson up in 1965.. had daughter in 1975.. had son in 1977..
Jackie