[suzherm]

Oh, Sarah, I feel for you. I am a birthmom to a 17 year old daughter. I have been in your spot.

I agree with the earlier post about getting educated. Before you do anything, look at all your options, see what kind of resources are available to you, talk to everyone and anyone you can. Adoptive parents, agencies, bmoms, find out about state assistance in your state, programs for single moms, every option possible.

My biggest regret about my placement is not the placement itself but that I was not better informed, that I did not ask certain questions, demand certain things, that I did not know I had the RIGHT to demand certain things and get answers to questions. My family had made me feel so bad and disgraced I acted that way and let others (the agency mainly) take advantage of me.

Lots of love.

Suz