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I'm a little confused on what role I should play in my brothers life. I contacted him a few weeks ago, via my space, we have been talking frequently on the phone and through email. He never knew about me, but I have always known about him. I have never met my b-mom ( his mom) but we have talked several times over the past 18 years, and it has always been difficult for her. I made the decision to contact him, because I knew she would never tell him. Anyway, he's seems ok with everything, but I know that emotions can run very high during a reunion. I have been in contact with my b-dad for several years and experienced them first hand. Our sister does not know about me yet.

Long story short, my b-mom has put them through a lot. And I believe most of her depression, running off, etc, stems from her "secret" and guilt. Recently her behavior has become worse. He has been calling me a lot, just wanting to vent...Should I just listen or offer advise. I am very confused. I have always thought of these two as my brother and sister and love them with all my heart. I just worry about over stepping my bounds too quickly and scaring him away. So far I've let him take the lead...

Any input would be greatly appreciated.