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strosnstars
Hi Laura, It must be hell to feel excluded all these years when it was you who created the opportunity for the aparent/child relationship in the first place. Also, there are so many negative stereotypes about bmothers, I can imagine their continued silence toward you must feel like they hold negative (and misguided) opinions of you. Sometimes silence seems very loud.
I'm curious what your son's life was like growing up? Does he say good things about his parents and his childhood, or does he feel distant from or angry toward his parents?
I ask this because I do think it's unusual for a newly reunited adoptee to invite a bmom to an event like a wedding, against the wishes of the aparents. Most adoptees are very careful, perhaps too careful, not to appear disloyal to their aparents, and not to hurt their aparents' feelings. Could he be trying to get back at them for something? Please don't read into this question that I don't think you should go, or that he shouldn't invite you. You and he are both adults and have the right to decide what the boundaries of your relationship will be.
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