This book is actually on my "to read" list- unfortunately my "time to read" is somewhat limited, but I hope to get to it soon!
I'm the adoptive mother to 8 month old twin boys - they are the most beautiful boys in the world, and when people talk about how much they look like my husband and I - I am extremely flattered
. And they do look like us, I actually had someone all but call me a liar when I told her they were adopted! (She sat next to us on a plane and in talking mentioned she was interested in adopting)
That being said, they also look just like their birthfamilies - our son who looks like my husband also looks like his Birthmom and her family, the son who looks like me - looks like his birthdad so much so that when I met their birthfather he was in a group of 3 and I picked him out immediately.
Is it a bad thing? Neither their Birthfamily nor us think so. In fact their BirthGrandfather was continually telling me how amazed he was that Andrew & I have such similar coloriing (very, very fair - I cry for 30 seconds and look like I've been crying for 30 days!). Our sons will always know they are adopted, I show them a picture of their birthmother fairly regurlarly - and when our social worker finally follows through and gets us pictures of their Birthfather and half brothers we'll show them those as well. (We have an open relationship with their birthmom and semi-open with their birthfather). And our sons will have the option of who and when they talk about their adoption - or not.
Michelle