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This is excruciatingly difficult for me as I have many mixed feelings about what went on, and I worry that many of the experiences I had (and my feelings now, after the fact) are NOT normal. I sometimes worry if I'm messed up, abnormal or possibly in denial?
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I honor and respect your decision..
If a woman does not want to parent then that woman or man has an absolute right to relinquish the child to someone that wants to parent..
I do not think anyone has a right to put their ‘dogma’ on another person.. for and or about the decisions that person has made.. I know there are places on the net where your reality would be stripped away and you would be told that you are in denial or something worse..
Its wrong when that happens.. as wrong as it gets..
A child’s mind is so darn important to me.. those early years are prime in the sorting of the rest of their lives.. a child thrives in a nurturing environment..
I gave my son up in 1965.. and I did not even go into the thinking of keeping him.. It was not possible that is the bottom line.. I lived with that for a long time.. even tho I did the unhealthy thing of blocking my emotions.. but when I met him I went into a tailspin and tried to become a victim.. a “it was done to me” victim..
I gave my son up so he could have a better life then the one I could provide for him.. and that is the bottom line fact..
These emotions come and go and I believe we can navigate the waters.. knowing the child is okay… Don’t deny your emotions they are normal.. tell yourself when the dark days come that they will pass and you are doing the best you can.. etc etc..
Welcome to the forums and I am glad you are here.. Your voice is very important..
A woman’s right to give her child up for adoption is a very important woman’s right. Just as the womans right to keep her child is important..
Jackie