[Oceans]

I'm not in reunion, but I have thought about this a lot. I guess it would come out in time if a relationship was built.

Would I want to know? Yes, but over time. Laying it on me all at once might be too much.

Would I feel guilt? Hard to say because I'm not there but much of my self-work has been around the fact that I had no control. I had nothing to do with choosing his family and I don't feel guilty about choosing adoption. I wish things could have been different but given what I had to work with at the time, I don't feel guilt.

I like to think all I can do is be there for him if that's what he wants. I can't change the past. But I can be the person he needs me to be going forward.

If it were something he wanted to share, then I hope he wouldn't hold back out of fear of hurting my feelings. Adoption has/had enough secrets and those secrets always end up biting us in the end...