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Originally Posted by ashlam
Thank you so much for your replies. Maryjanek thank you....you kind of made me feel better about paying the money for the search. I just don't want to pay all that money and get nothing out of it. Thanks again to everyone.
Melissa
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I know you posted your question a long time ago... but I'm new to this forum and felt compelled to share my story.
I was adopted along with my brother in 1972. Our bio parents were married. When I went back to CC when I was 18 (with my brother in tow)
the same caseworker was there!!
She pulled out a file... and my brother could clearly see the biological parents last name. Also... our maternal bio grandmother had already contacted CC looking for us so it was very simple. I think the case worker gave me the grandmother's name and that was the end of it. (Of course this was very bad for our biological mother who was totally betrayed by her own mother... as our grandparents were the ones who "surrendered" us to Catholic Charities. )
Long story short.... we were reunited with our biological family without much effort and absolutely no money spent. Mind you.... we were 4 & 5 when our parents adopted us... so maybe Catholic Charities didn't think it was as important to protect anyone because we remembered stuff. Who knows.
My advice is :
find out who your original caseworker was and if he/she is still there... and get in contact with that person.
if you can't get ahold of that person, look for the predecessor.
Make an appointment to discuss your medical background/history... they cannot deny you that.
During your discussion of medical info, bring up your wish to re-unite with your biological parent(s).
If your biological parent(s) have contacted Catholic Charities looking for you, it should be a pretty easy process. Otherwise, you may have to wait a while.
If all else fails, consider hiring a private investigator, and start doing online research.
Please remember your parents, and if at all possible, be sure to share your feelings and experience(s) with them. Remember, they love you and raised you.. they are your "real" parents.
Good LucK!